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Sunday, February 05, 2006

On matriarchate and patriarchate

"The sanctuary is a kitchen where men cook for women" ... In the course of preparations for the Warsaw feminism conference I asked a good priest to comment on the above statement and his letter in reply contained the following:

"That on the altar men are cooking for women is - admittedly - a sloppy way of describing what happens in Holy Mass. One could also compare it to a Romeo singing below the window of his Juliet. The essence of Christian liturgy is the Holy Communion - the meeting - between God and man, which takes the form of the encounter of Christ, the bridegroom, with the Church, his bride. The cooking or singing metaphors must be understood in this context.

"Check out the Gospel of John, in order to see how Christ, especially in the beginning is presented as the bridegroom. And connect this to the words of the prophets - especially Jeremiah - who speak about the punishment of Jerusalem by saying that the voice of the bride and the voice of the bridegroom will not be heard any more in the city. After that, the prophets turns silent - until the voice of the bridegroom and the bride is heard again...

"This is, by the way, also the - rarely mentioned - reason for clerical celibacy or for the fact that clergy must be male.

"Regarding Central and Easter European women and families there are indeed a few things to be said. I was surprised when once our Polish parish-priest here in Moldova said to me that "this society is characterized by matriarchat". I had suspected this for a long time. Matriarchate in the situation I am living at the moment means that the mother is responsible for the family and its survival whereas the husband very often - obviously not always - "sleeps under a palm and drinks votka". The consequence of this is that women here indeed seem much more developed and active than men. This is evident when one watches interviews with average citizens e.g. in the Romanian state TV. The differences between men and women is - as a rule - enormous. It is enough to see the facial expression or language/pronounciation/capacity of expression of the average male Romanian as compared to a female. Women give - on the average - a much better impression than men. Why? Because they are [forced to be] in charge of things.

"Matriarchate begins in the families when mothers prefer their sons to their daughters - and mothers have a tendency to do this. While the daughter is quickly put into the situation to help and to contribute to the daily work in the house, the son remains the preferred pupil of the mother who is allowed to do nothing. He is protected, is always right and can do what he wants. This is the best way to educated him into the kind of gipsy baron he will be one day. Once he gets married, he will will continue behaving the way he did while at home with his mother. The so called patriarchate is once successful and - now failing - attempt of the women to make men do something.

(I'm never going to give up drawing up conference plans if it means receiving letters like this - but meanwhile I'm sharing the treasures coming my way)